For many parents, the idea of talking about abuse with their children feels uncomfortable or even frightening. Yet these conversations are among the most powerful tools adults have to keep kids safe. Silence creates confusion and vulnerability; knowledge builds confidence and trust. At RAACE, we encourage families to make body safety, consent, and communication part of everyday life.
Start Early and Speak Often
Safety education should begin early, long before a child can even spell the word “abuse.” Young children can understand basic boundaries like “my body belongs to me” and “you can say no to unwanted touch.” As they grow, those lessons evolve into more nuanced conversations about consent, peer pressure, and healthy relationships.
The key is to make these discussions ongoing rather than a one-time lecture. Just as you would talk about seatbelts or crossing the street, normalize discussions about body safety in small, consistent doses. Children who grow up with this language feel empowered to speak up if something feels wrong.
Use Clear, Respectful Language
It’s common for adults to use vague terms like “private parts” or “down there,” but clear anatomical language is crucial. When children know the proper names for their body parts, they can describe concerns accurately and without shame. This not only helps parents understand what’s happening—it also signals to potential abusers that the child is informed and supported.
Avoid labeling conversations as “bad” or “dirty.” The goal is to build understanding, not fear. Encourage curiosity, answer questions calmly, and reassure children that it’s always safe to ask about anything that confuses them.
Create Safe Spaces for Disclosure
Children rarely come forward directly with the words “I’m being abused.” Instead, they might test the waters by hinting at discomfort or asking indirect questions. The adult’s reaction in that moment matters deeply. If you seem angry, scared, or dismissive, they may shut down. If you stay calm, listen, and thank them for trusting you, you reinforce their courage.
Let children know that no secret involving touch or discomfort should ever be kept. Reinforce the idea that adults should never ask a child to hide something from their parents or caregivers.
Normalize Empowerment, Not Fear
When we educate children about abuse, we aren’t scaring them—we’re equipping them. The message is one of strength: “You have a voice, and adults will listen.” At RAACE, we believe prevention starts with communication, honesty, and trust.
Join the RAACE Effort to Educate and Empower
RAACE offers downloadable family guides and conversation templates to help adults speak with confidence and compassion. Visit RAACE.org to learn how to start the conversation today—and keep it going as your child grows.